“They made sex taboo — then sold it back as porn.”
It started with silence.
We weren’t taught about sex. We weren’t guided through desire. We were shamed into ignorance and punished for curiosity.
Sex became something dirty. Dangerous. Hidden.
And then, when we were confused and disconnected, they sold it back to us.
But not as love. Not as connection. As porn.
What we weren’t allowed to explore — they packaged.
They filmed it. Filtered it. Turned it into a product, an algorithm, an addiction.
Not education — exploitation. Not intimacy — industry.
And we called it freedom.
We were told porn was harmless. Natural. Empowering. But most people’s first experience of “sex” came not through trust, consent, or love, but through violent, degrading, commercialised content streamed in private silence.
A study by Brown & L’Engle (2009) found early exposure to sexualised media is linked to riskier beliefs and behaviours. Owens et al. (2012) found children exposed to porn were more likely to show lower empathy and more permissive sexual attitudes.
This isn’t sexual liberation. It’s psychological grooming and it’s happening on a massive scale.
Porn didn’t just change what we see.
It changed what we believe.
That silence is consent
That pain is pleasure
That women are objects
That dominance = desire
That shame is sexy
And when that’s your first lesson in sex? You don’t grow up connected. You grow up confused.
Disconnected from your own body. Desensitised to others’ boundaries. Conditioned to expect performance, not presence.
This is where it starts.
Not with a crime. Not with an arrest. Not in a dark alley or chatroom.
It starts in plain sight. On a screen. In silence. At age 9. 10. 11. Before a child even knows what real intimacy means.
And we don’t question it, because porn is normal now. Expected. Personal. Unspoken. Until it isn’t.
In this series, I’ll show you:
How porn grooms the brain before a predator ever does
How fantasy becomes compulsion
How escalation works
How some sex offenders trace it all back to porn
And how the system profits from the rot
This isn’t a call for censorship. This is a call for truth.
Because what we’ve been sold isn’t harmless. It’s hollowing us out and building something dangerous in its place.
Next:
Part 2 – First Hit at 11
Real stories. Early exposure. What it does to the brain. And why it’s not just “boys being boys”, it’s conditioning, wrapped in a play button.
The Grooming Files 
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